How Social Media Ruins Your Relationship -by Sharmayne Cheng

I will be pretty impressed if you have never ever fought with your partner over, Facebook or Twitter, however ridiculous it may sound. Well, unless of course both of you doesn’t own a social media account. Like it or not, we have to admit that social media has pretty much taken over our lives; don’t we sometimes find ourselves in front of the computer doing nothing but refreshing the page waiting for something new to be up? Facebook or FB in short, doesn’t just cause us to waste away quality productive hours but it also poses pesky threats to our love life.  

# 1 : Telltale signs of how FB ruins our relationship

You know Facebook is a problem when your partner come charging on you, asking who was the hottie you’ve just added on Facebook. “Who is she? Do you know her? What’s your relationship with her? She add you or you add her?”.

Thanks to our creative imagination, you might also hate Facebook when people from the opposite sex start giving sly comments on your partner’s page, anything as simple as a smiley or a “xoxo” can irk you and ruin your mood!

And bless us, even relationship status display can make a relationship falter. How? Well, if your partner didn’t take the initiative to change his/her status to “In a Relationship”, you will think that he still wants to be known as single among his network. And if he do changes it to “In a Relationship” but didn’t display your name, you will think that he is not proud of having you. What I am trying to say is, the list of spark plugs that can pop up from Facebook alone is just endless, you get what I mean.

But at the end of the day, after many fights and debates and exhaustion from the intense lung exercise, what do we actually gain? Justification? Satisfaction from proving our partner’s fading enthusiasm? We gain nothing but more frustration and discontentment with each other.

If you are nodding head whilst reading up to this point, you should totally stay tuned for next week’s column on how to tackle our exasperating, inner insecurity with trust.

Sharmayne Cheng is a writer for a local magazine, specializing in relationship issues. 

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 See ya till then!

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