Hello people, I am back! This time with more sparks than ever. Now, let’s not get too excited just yet, let me point out a little something that we all wish doesn’t exist- phases in relationship is it. What phases you ask? Well, ‘The 3 Phase Package’ as I would like to call it. Meet and fall in love with a bang, hot and passionate initial dating stage and then followed by… the infamous plateau. Like it or not, none of us can maintain the initial firework stage of a relationship forever! Oh maybe you can, in movies-lah.
Hence, now we are going to talk about “How to Bring Back Sparks into Your Relationship!” Ah, such a cliché topic BUT don’t we all occasionally, (or maybe not so occasionally) laments, “He don’t love me as much anymore”, “She used to be sooooooo sweet”, “How I miss the old times! How people change! *grunts*” etc. etc… We only know how to endlessly complain about how our partner no longer treats us like precious little jewel, but we ourselves MIGHT be the one who contributes to this situation a little.. somewhat. Let’s stop lamenting and start doing something! Action speaks louder than words!
And we can always start by…
Laughing at everything!
Laughter is the best medicine. So true. So start finding humor in everything! We all should take a back seat and let loose sometimes, because by being uptight and serious, not only we miss out on so much fun in life, we are missing out on chances that could enhance our relationship. Things like missing a bus, car breakdown, car cutting lanes, running late for appointment are pretty amusing if only you let your mind open up! Come to think of it, if it doesn’t kill you, it’s funny. Hahaha. And boy, we can never look better sulking than laughing!
Get touchy
Touchy as in, touchy feely! Remember when you first dated, you cannot bear not messaging or talking to that person? Not only that, your length of message is way longer and sweeter! Even mushy. Ah ha, you can’t deny that can you. Peeps, it doesn’t hurt to spend a little more time on your partner, so take some time to butter him/her up with honey talks and reminisce the good old times. Just a random, not-so-swift message of telling your partner how much you still love him/her, how glad you are of having each other to go through the ups and downs of life can be a good start.
Appreciate please!
Appreciation plays a big role in a relationship. The ability to recognize, acknowledge and appreciate what the other half has done for you can do amazing wonders to your love life. By being a grateful partner, you will have a even more giving partner. Many of us has got so accustomed to receiving favours, we thought its normal and its ‘supposed’ to be that way. Start showing how much you appreciate your partner’s effort by saying ‘thank you very much, I love you!’, it is as simple as that! But of course, they are so much more you can do to show your appreciation…
Surprise!!
I tell you, there is no one in this world who doesn’t love a surprise. Unless of course, you have certain horrifying past experiences with surprises. Nonetheless, put some effort in planning a surprise for your partner, like showing up at her work place out of the blue, posting a sweet random photo of both of you on Facebook(now this is how you can finally put Facebook into good use), bring him on a spontaneous road trip, even defying routines and do something special on a typical weekend date can be a big surprise. The possibility for a surprise is just endless!
Relationship is always about give and take, so babes and dudes out there, I hope you are at least a bit more enlightened after reading the above. You just have to stop complaining about your mundane love life, instead work on a little more effort into restoring your past glory, perhaps making it even better! I hereby wish you best of luck, Adios!
Sharmayne Cheng is a writer for a local magazine, specializing in relationship issues.
-Not just another Aunt Agony,
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